In Victor Martinez’s novel ‘Parrot in the oven, and Kesha’s song ‘Praying’, they share the same idea that there are problems with friendships and relationships. They both show how they love these people, but at the same time they want to get away and try to find some form of peace inside themselves so they can be happy. In ‘Parrot in the Oven’, Manny doesn’t get along with his abusive father since he drinks, gambles, and abuses the family. Similarly, in ‘Praying’, Kesha is getting out of an abusive relationship with a guy that was putting her down. In both texts, we learn that having some hardships in your life and moving on can only make you stronger.
A theme ‘Parrot in the Oven’ and ‘Praying’ share is that past experiences of pain and moving on from them can make you stronger. Manny from ‘Parrot in the Oven’ has a strained relationship with his father, who had been drinking, gambling, and abusing his family since he could remember. As a result, Manny thought that the only life for him was a life in a gang. At the end of the story, he realized that’s not who he wanted to be, and the place he belonged in was with his family. In ‘Praying’, Kesha states: ‘Told me I was nothing without you.’. It shows that she was in an abusive relationship and he wasn’t treating her right. Later, she said: ‘And I don’t need you, I found a strength I’ve never known.’. It shows the reader that she found this strength to break away from that relationship and become even stronger without him. In both texts, the characters are negatively affected by those around them.
Even though both texts display how Kesha and Manny deal with tough relationships, it also shows how they deal with them differently. For Manny, it takes a negative toll on him and causes him to think less of himself. He joined a gang since that’s all he could see himself being because of his family background. Overtime, it negatively affected him until he realized family is all he had and that he had to cherish them. Kesha, however, showed the reader how she positively dealt with the pain. In her song, she says: ‘I hope you find your peace.’. That statement shows that she wishes him the best and hopes he finds some inner peace himself. She also says: ‘And I can thank you for how strong I have become.’. This shows that Kesha took her situation and used it to make herself stronger, and used it to move on.
In both ‘Parrot in the Oven’, and ‘Praying’, Victor Martinez and Kesha share with us the importance that you can use your situation to make yourself stronger, or to tear yourself down. Only you have control of how you use it and deal with it, whether it be like Manny, negatively, or Kesha, positively.